Gloria, I have had two-and-a-half years of psychoanalysis, and on and off years and years of therapy — psychiatrists mostly, but also some couples’ therapy with PHDs. Absolutely nothing worked for me. Nothing took away my lifetime anxiety and depression until Georgia. And I’m not even sure that if my ex husband hadn’t told me about pushing away his negative thoughts and if I wasn’t so desperate that day to try it, that I wouldn’t still be that girl who went from one negative thought to the next and on to the next.
I was not a fan of behavior modification. In fact, I thought it ridiculous. Years ago I took a six-month course in spiritual psychology. At one point, I was required to write a paper covering all types of therapy, and for behavioral modification, I wrote a satirical imitation.
I bought it all that I had to go back to my childhood and suffer through all the mistreatment and abuse on the analyst’s couch. The only thing that did for me is cut me open for observation. Examination only. Forcing myself to change my negative thoughts in the moment has done more in the brief time I have been practicing it than any other trick in the book. And I went from a negative and unhappy person who thought life was shit to looking at life with wonder.