I just love this honest and insightful account of this relationship you’ve described, Christiana. I wonder how many of us have tried to fit a “square” man in a “round” hole (forgive the pun).
In my youth I always liked the “bad boys” — fun and exciting but… lots of buts. In my early 30s I married a nice guy. Not quite a “square” but also not interested in too much communication and was never excited about sex; although, he didn’t have the fear your guy had. I eventually left him when I became unbearably bored, dissatisfied and totally lonely. I wanted to find someone interesting and exciting.
I could write pages and pages here, but I won’t. Maybe sometime we could have a really good conversation about this sort of situation many of us find ourselves in. For now, I just want to tell you that I’m stunned that you dated this man for as long as you did and that in my mind you absolutely made the right choice not to become too attached. She is either just as “square” as he or more interested in his toys.