Okay. It should be. But that’s not what has happened in your case. So it seems the love of your life has just upped and left you. Do you think perhaps now is the time to take a deeper look into yourself and make some changes while you’re in between relationships?

Look, I am just playing amateur therapist here. I believe that if we are not “whole,” it is much more difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. Everyone has issues. No one is completely without self doubt. And the more difficult our childhoods, the more work we have to do on our own to love ourselves. It is hard enough navigating through life on our own two feet, but when we throw a relationship into the mix, it becomes even more complicated. So if we do not love ourselves enough, we potentially become a burden for our partners. And our partners are having a tough time, too, because everyone does. However, if they have to not only hold themselves up but hold us up, as well, it becomes too much.

Now, I know you’re thinking “But isn’t that part of being in a relationship? Isn’t working as a team a benefit? Isn’t it wonderful that when I’m down, she raises me up and when she’s down, I do the same for her?” Yes, yes, and yes. But two “whole” halves make a whole.

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