Yes, our close friends and family that say “Get over it” mostly want us to feel better because they don’t like to see us hurting. It sounds terribly rude, but it’s their way of saying “Please take your mind off this and concentrate on something else because this is too painful to dwell on.” My mother used to say “Buck up.” To her that meant it’s not as bad as you’re making it out to be. I know this because then she would say, “Think about the woman down the street with terminal cancer” or “Think about Jill Kinmont who is paralyzed from the shoulders down.” For reference, Jill Kinmont was once the reigning national champion in the slalom and a top prospect for a medal at the 1956 Winter Olympics).

I hated when my mother said “Buck up.” I felt she was undermining my feelings, and I would always reply, “Yes, it is very sad about those people, but we all have our own demons. Perhaps Jill Kinmont and the lady down the street with terminal cancer have better coping mechanisms than I.”

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